Divorce is full of challenges. From the beginning when you’re unsure of how to get started or whether it’s the right choice, to the end when you’re faced with building a new life on your own, each phase of a divorce has its own difficulties. It can be rough on your emotional health, so it’s important to take measures to protect your emotional wellbeing, even when it feels like you’re too busy or overwhelmed to take a breath. In today’s blog post, we’re looking at three ways you can protect your emotional health during divorce. These tips can even be applicable during other stressful times in your life.
- Set aside time to make yourself a priority.
Even when you’re extremely busy, it is essential to set aside time — even if it’s just five or ten minutes before bed — to assess your feelings and look inward. Ignoring your feelings is another way of bottling them up, which is never productive. If you can spare an hour or so once a week, or even once every two weeks, it can be hugely beneficial to have the support of a therapist. This will help you learn coping mechanisms that you can employ when you feel overwhelmed. Other ways to take time for yourself include going outside (taking a walk or relaxing on your deck), treating yourself to a favorite snack or meal, and even setting your responsibilities aside to spend an evening chatting or watching a movie with a friend.
- Remember you can lean on your support system.
When your friends say, “Call me anytime you need a break,” or “I’m here anytime you want to talk,” it can seem like an empty platitude, but the truth is they probably really mean it! Your loved ones can see when you are struggling and want to be there for you, just as you would want to be there to support them if the tables were turned. There’s no shame in leaning on your support system. Just remember to set reasonable boundaries (a friend is not a therapist!). Your support system is likely eager to help you with envisioning your next chapter, relaxing in the current moment, and even with practical matters like childcare.
- Work with a coach.
A good divorce coach will understand what you are going through far better than most of your friends and family members. A coach can answer your questions about the divorce process, helping you understand the best ways to prepare and what you can expect from each step along the way. Many people feel lost and alone during the divorce process and a divorce coach can help you manage those fears and uncertainties.
At Mediated Online Solutions, we are passionate about helping you cope with the stresses of divorce and other difficult family matters. We help you with everything from getting your bearings to getting through what may be one of life’s most difficult challenges.. Our work is completely virtual, making it extremely accessible and convenient. If you are interested in learning more about how we can help you deal with the stressful situations that arise in your life, we encourage you to contact us today. We are here to guide you into a happier, healthier future!